Letโs be honestโsometimes itโs hard to believe that the answer to, โDoes God even care?โ is a resounding, โAbsolutely!โ Especially when weโve been praying for something for ages, and it seems to be sitting in Godโs inbox, probably unread, and definitely unanswered (so far).ย
Weโve read the verses about God caring for us (Luke 12:7, Isaiah 40:11, John 15:15), and we believe he caresโฆ at least, in a general sense. But, maybe, weโre growing more and more convinced that heโs too busy to deal with our requests for a new job, our prayers that the tension in conversations with parents will finally ease up, our pleas that weโll have just a smidge more time in our schedule to do something we enjoy instead of being so burdened by endless work and home project lists, or our desperation for our friend to get better.
What should we do about unanswered prayer? How do we keep ourselves from growing bitter, and frustrated that God hasnโt gotten to our request(s) yet?
These are good questions, and we wonโt pretend like we have a magic bullet answer. But if you, like us, need a little help getting through seasons of unanswered prayer, here are four answers to the question, โWhat should we do about unanswered prayer?โย
When You Pray and God Doesnโt Answer, Ask for Peace
Only true peace from God can get us through crazy times. Weโre talking about the kind of peace that โtranscends all understandingโ (Phil. 4:7)โthe kind of peace that, given our circumstances, doesnโt seem logical.ย
This kind of peace doesnโt make our problems go away. It doesnโt even always mean weโre suddenly game to wait for an answer to prayer when God sees fit. But as we simply ask God to give us his peace, calm can win out over anxiety. Fear of never getting what we need can give way to a growing trust that God has a plan, and that heโll work things out. Godโs peace also builds our confidence that God isnโt blind to whatโs going on, but just working in a way we might not be able to see (yet).ย ย
When You Pray and God Doesnโt Answer, Remember What Godโs Done
Thereโs some serious power in remembering how faithful God has been in the past. Because by remembering, we build up the evidence of his good character in our quick-to-doubt minds.ย
Maybe thereโs a specific time in our own lives when we saw God come through for us in an amazing wayโletโs take a minute to write it down. Or weโve seen God work in the lives of those around us through people we know, or even videos or podcasts weโve heard.
If weโre still struggling to come up with something, weโve always got this really great gift of books and letters that record (in detail) Godโs miraculous and resilient faithfulness to his people over the span of centuries (we call it, โthe Bibleโ for short). Check out Josephโs story in Genesis, or the book of Ruth, or read any of Godโs promises to his people through one of the prophets!
As we physically write out these rememberings, we can start to see his character coming through these examples. And then we can reflect on the truth that the God who did all that IS the very same God who will, in his timing, answer our prayer (in the best way he sees fit).
When You Pray and God Doesnโt Answer, Consider Alternatives
After so many weeks/months (even years!) of asking God for the same thing over and over, weโve found it can be a helpful practice to let ourselves step back a bit and ask God, โAre we even praying for the right/best thing?โ Maybe weโre actually really unprepared for what weโre asking for, and God has some work to do before weโre ready. Or maybe heโs got something totally different and exciting up his sleeve. Or maybe God is inviting us simply to trust him.ย
Regardless of what Godโs eventual answer to our prayer will look like, itโll be helpful to train our hearts to soften a bit toward considering that his plan and timing might be pretty different from ours. No, we donโt know how heโll work things out, but the exercise of asking can remind us how very big he and his plans are, and how limited our ability to make great plans is (we donโt know all the details like he does!).
When You Pray and God Doesnโt Answer, Take it One Day at a Time
Weโre trying to be honest here, so we donโt want to sweep this reality under the rug: it is SO hard to wait for God to answer prayers. Really, really hard. And depending on the gravity of our prayer, it can be totally overwhelming.ย
But one reminder we find helpful is this: right now, we only need enough strength to get through today. We can admit and wrestle with the hardness of this season of unanswered prayer, without drawing away from God. Instead, draw near to him, cashing in on his promise to be a safe place of refuge for his people (Proverbs 18:10).
So, what should we do about unanswered prayer? We do all of these things, and then keep doing them on repeat (and find new things that are helpful). And we recognize that hard seasons like this won’t always make sense. Sometimes weโll learn later on why God waited to answer a certain prayer, but itโs probably more common that we never find out. We just have to trust that thereโs some purpose in his timing and provision because he is good and will do whatโs best.ย
And we do believe there is purpose for the way God answers prayers, and the timeline on which he does it. But we still need help believing it sometimes, and thatโs okay.ย
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